Wednesday, December 17, 2008

The email

Last week on my birthday, an ex emailed me. Not just an ex, but THE ex. The one that made me realize what love was. Long story short, we ended up in a long distance relationship which he terminated just a few months before graduation and my return home. Needless to say, I ended up not moving home, and moving to NYC instead. Probably the best thing that could have happened to me actually. Since we broke up in January of 2006, we hadn't communicated at all.

Then comes the awkward email:

I debated with myself whether or not it would be a good idea to wish you a Happy Birthday. I'm pretty sure its today; but I might be wrong. Anyways, I hope everything is going super for you and that you have a great day.

I don't get it. I'm sure he was trying to be nice or something, but it kind of ruined my day a bit. I started to think about our times together, and I really couldn't remember too much. I know I was happy, but it was that hollow happiness that you know will go away because I knew he wasn't emotionally strong. I emailed him back a short email saying thank you, and now I think he probably didn't deserve that.

I do subscribe to the "everything happens for a reason" philosophy and I'm happy things turned out the way they did. I have an amazing boyfriend. I couldn't ask for a better person in my life. It took me a long time to get over that guy, but as a result I was able to appreciate a good man when I see one.

And now I'm at a better place in my life. It's almost like exes know when you are over them and they send these emails to try to make sure you don't forget. All it did was remind me of what it used to be like to date someone who wasn't man enough for me.


Anonymous said...

2006 seems so long ago! So much has changed, though, and definitely in a better direction. I don't know you're new guy, but things just seem more "right" this time -- at least from what I read on your end of it. I think P was feeling lonely, otherwise he really has no reason to contact you.

Anonymous said...

thanks toni.

love the new layout.

with regard to your situation, the only thing that you need to know/that matters is that where you are now is exactly where you are meant to be. AND, it just so happens to be a much better place with a much better person. you could waiting tables and living in a shitty apartment in oceanside.

happy christmas!